So far, one of my favourite things about working with children is their purity. So many things to say about this but the most relevant part is that watching them eat gives me so much joy.
Apart from today, at snack-time, a 5 year old girl was enjoying her food and rambling while she was eating. At first, I liked it when she was talking about how she’s always hungry and that she eats so much because she said it so shamelessly. Until she said, and I paraphrase, “I don’t want to eat too much though because then I will be fat and I want to be beautiful”. What the actual f**k. I knew this wasn’t going to get through to her but I said “But being ‘fat’ doesn’t mean you are not beautiful”, trying to say it in a way that she would understand. And she dismissed it saying how if you eat loads you will be fat and she wants to be really, really beautiful. I wish I remembered exactly what she said but this is enough for you to know what I am talking about.
I’m not overly surprised because HK is quite appearance-based anyway and in general, if so-called “adults” believe in these ridiculous ideas, they were probably fed them from a very young age too. For instance, a wedding day. Why do people want to look good or better or lose weight or fit in a dress or lose the chub to fit in a smaller suit for one, single day. One day. 24 hours or less. I have seen surrounded by so many millennials who change their whole lifestyle to, essentially, look better. Go to the gym 5 times a week, eat hummus and carrots for lunch, cut out the carbs, go on a sugar-free diet, eat soup as a meal replacement, eliminate the gluten, order a skinny instead of full-fat latte erghhhh. We are all going to die in the end. And these people who have limited precious, time on this planet are obsessed with what they look like.
I just find it sad hearing this from a 5-year-old girl. Just as it makes me sad that a strong, powerful 30-something year old girl boss, who I totally admire and look up to, is reduced down to another superficial woman who I can’t help but lose respect for. It’s bad enough for men to have these ideals, let alone our own gender! She had expectations of brides to put effort into losing weight for a wedding photo and a wedding day. I mean isn’t a wedding day about having all the people you like in one room and having a party and enjoying themselves, instead of restricting and controlling and working your arse off months or years beforehand to look slimmer for a couple of photos to put up in your future house, that won’t even matter anyway because at some point in the future, no one will know that we existed on this Earth. I digress (lol). Not only that but from knowing this person, her eating patterns; meal choicesl and comments regarding weight, fat and body image have always been geared towards this ridiculous mindset which contributes to this age-old public belief that skinny, or for men, muscly is good.
The superficiality extends to a number of topics I would be happy to ramble about some other time. From women not wanting to go out with men shorter than them, to marriage being the default relationship status, white being the default race, straight the default sexuality and male the default gender. For another post on another day.
Disclaimer: I know everyone can live their life any way they want and they will, just as I can live my life however I want to.But I can’t help but think these things when I see the general public with these beliefs.